Services

Intimacy, Desire Differences, Men’s Issues, LGBTQ+, Kink, Polyamory, and High‑Visibility Clients

Relationships & Couples

Conflict isn’t a sign that something is wrong with your relationship. It’s a sign that something important is trying to happen. Every couple fights. Every couple gets stuck. And every couple has moments where communication breaks down, or emotions feel too big to manage. What matters most is how you move through it together.

For some partners, conflict feels scary or threatening, so they avoid it altogether. For others, things escalate quickly, and it becomes hard to slow down or call a time-out. Many couples simply don’t know how to repair after a rupture, so conversations get pushed aside, left unfinished, or forgotten.

  • I help you learn how to be in conflict in a way that doesn’t feel dangerous — a way that builds understanding instead of distance. You’ll learn how to recognize when one or both of you need a pause, how to call a time-out without abandoning the conversation, and how to return to it when you’re calmer and more grounded. We’ll practice repair until it feels natural, not forced or awkward.

    We also work on sharing responsibility in your relationship — having hard conversations, initiating connection, navigating intimacy and sex, and rebuilding closeness after a fight. No one person can hold all the emotional labor. Healthy relationships are co-created, and I help you build the skills to make that possible.

    Just as importantly, I help couples bring back playfulness, lightness, and curiosity. When you feel safe enough to laugh, explore, and enjoy each other again, everything else becomes easier. My goal is to help you build a relationship where you can show up honestly, disagree safely, repair intentionally, and stay connected through all of it.

  • Conflict and repair matter — but so does the space between you. That’s a central part of my role as your couples therapist.

    Couples therapy is a space where I hold both of you.
    I’m not here to take sides or decide who’s “right.” I’m here to hear each of you fully, help you understand one another more deeply, and guide you through the full arc of an issue — from tension to clarity to repair.

    Some sessions will naturally focus more on one partner.

    That’s normal. Sometimes one person is hurting more, stuck in something deeper, or carrying a heavier emotional weight in that moment. When that happens, we’ll go there — but that doesn’t mean the session becomes imbalanced or dominated.

    There is always room for both of you.
    If we spend time with one partner, I always make space for the other — not as an afterthought or a quick check‑in, but as a meaningful part of the session. My goal is for both of you to feel heard, supported, and understood, even when the focus temporarily shifts.

    Your relationship is the client — and I hold the space with that in mind.
    I’m here to support each of you individually, but also to nurture the “us” you’re working to strengthen. You will both have a voice. You will both have time. And you will have a therapist who is invested in helping you move through the hard moments together, not in isolation.

Therapy for Men of all Identities and Backgrounds

Many men come to therapy carrying expectations about how they’re supposed to feel, function, or handle things on their own. You might be navigating pressure around sex, relationships, work, identity, parenting, or simply the expectation to stay composed no matter what’s happening inside. My work with men creates a place where you can talk through things that are hard to say anywhere else.

My style is empathetic, honest, and non‑judgmental. I ask curious questions that help you slow down and understand what’s happening beneath the surface, not just the part you’ve learned to show the world. I’m not here to give you quick skills to temporarily fix something. I help you go deeper, understand the roots of what you’re experiencing, and move toward real, lasting healing.

    • Sex‑related concerns, including performance anxiety, erection issues, or questions   about their body

    • Desire discrepancy and navigating mismatched libido with a partner

    • Sexual shame or uncertainty about what they want

    • Intimacy challenges and difficulty talking about feelings or needs

    • Relationship stress, conflict, or disconnection

    • Needing their own individual therapist while doing couples work

    • Parenting pressures and identity shifts

    • Work stress, burnout, and performance expectations

    • Kink, polyamory, or open relationships

    • Their first experience with therapy, and not knowing what to expect

    • There are no expectations about how to “do” therapy

    • They can talk openly about sex, shame, fear, or confusion without judgment

    • I’m honest and will challenge them when it’s helpful

    • They don’t have to hold everything together or have the right words

    • They can sort through things they’ve never been able to say out loud

    • They finally have a place to talk through things that feel heavy or complicated

  • Our sessions move at a pace that feels manageable but meaningful. I will help you:

    • Slow down enough to understand what’s happening inside

    • Explore parts of yourself you’ve had to push aside

    • Untangle patterns that keep showing up in relationships

    • Understand your desires, boundaries, and needs

    • Build intimacy and communication skills that feel authentic

    • Make sense of identity, masculinity, and the roles you’ve been carrying

    You don’t need to come in with a plan or polished language. You just need to show up as you are, and we’ll work from there.

Sex Therapy

Most people ask, “Am I normal?” Yes! Beautifully different and normal.

Talking about sex can feel uncomfortable, awkward, or unfamiliar, especially in a culture that treats it as secretive or shameful. Many people worry they’ll say the “wrong” thing or that their desires, fears, or experiences will be judged. I understand that. It takes time to unwind sexual shame, and we’ll move at a pace that feels right for you.

In our work together, you always have agency. If I ask a question, you never owe me an answer. You might not be ready, or you might not want to go there yet. I respect that completely. My role is to offer a space where you can explore—safely, honestly, and without pressure.

  • My role is to help you stay gently curious about your body, your pleasure, and your feelings around sex and intimacy—rather than afraid of them.

  • When partners come in together, I hold each person with care and curiosity. Every body, every history, and every desire is different. What feels like a turn on for one person might be a complete arousal killer for another. Something that felt “meh” ten years ago with your partner might be exactly what lights you up today. Our bodies and our sexual satisfaction shift and evolve over time.

  • This often looks like:

    • Making sure each person feels heard and understood

    • Slowing things down so no one feels rushed or overwhelmed

    • Respecting differences in desire, comfort, and boundaries

    • Helping you talk about sex in ways that feel safe and doable

    • Supporting you as you discover what pleasure means for each of you

    I’m not here to take sides or decide who’s “right.” I’m here to help you understand each other more deeply and to create space for connection, honesty, and possibility.

  • People come to sex therapy for many different reasons, and the diversity of concerns is completely normal. You might be hoping to:

    • Feel more comfortable talking about sex

    • Understand what kinds of touch feel good—and what doesn’t

    • Navigate differences in desire

    • Explore open or polyamorous relationships

    • Learn more about kink, BDSM, or specific interests

    • Make sense of sexual behaviors that feel out of control

    • Address erectile challenges

    • Understand pain with touch or penetration

    • Explore questions about anatomy or sexual functioning, including conditions like hypospadias

    Whatever brings you in, we’ll approach it with respect, openness, and a shared commitment to understanding what you want for yourself and your relationships.

  • Sex therapy with me isn’t about fixing you or fitting you into someone else’s idea of what sex “should” look like. It’s about exploring what feels pleasurable, satisfying, and possible for you—individually and together.

    We’ll stay curious.
    We’ll move slowly when needed.
    We’ll honor differences.
    And we’ll make room for the fact that sexual connection evolves over time.

    Most people describe the experience as grounding, relieving, and surprisingly hopeful—like finally having permission to talk about something that has mattered for a long time.

High-Visibility Therapy

You might already have enough people around you who tell you what they think you want to hear: people who build you up, avoid challenging you, submit to your authority, or rush in to soothe you. That’s not what I’m here to do. You won’t be admired here; you’ll be met. My role is to meet you as a whole person: someone with depth, complexity, contradictions, and a real emotional life that deserves attention and care.

I’m down to earth and not easily distracted by power, status, or visibility. I’ll offer honest feedback, ask the questions others might avoid, and challenge you when something needs attention. Living a public life can blur the lines between who you are and who you’re expected to be. Visibility has a way of distorting intimacy, not just with others, but with yourself. When so much of your identity is shaped by outside eyes, it can become harder to know what you want, what you feel, or who you get to be when no one is watching.

For many people in high‑visibility roles, the loneliness doesn’t come from being surrounded by too few people. It comes from being surrounded by people who only know one version of you. It may be the loneliness of not knowing who you are separate from what others see, or the pressure of needing to be “on” all the time, even when you’re exhausted or unsure.

  • You can take a breath and begin exploring all of this. A space where you don’t have to perform, protect, or manage anyone else’s expectations. A space where you can be curious about the parts of you that rarely get room to exist.

    • who you’re expected to be in public

    • who you’re allowed to be in private

    • who you’ve had to be to stay safe

    • who you might become when you’re finally given space to be real

    You don’t have to have the answers. You don’t have to arrive polished or prepared. You just have to show up as you are, and we’ll take it from there—slowly, honestly, and at a pace that feels right for you.